Your Problem Isn’t My Problem

by Larry Richman

Set healthy boundaries. Stop rescuing others and allow them to solve their own problems. Achieve greater emotional balance, healthier relationships, and confidence in saying “no” with kindness.

Understand when to help others and when to step back. Learn about setting boundaries, detaching emotionally from others’ outcomes, and supporting others without enabling bad behavior.

Do you feel responsible for fixing other people’s problems? You want to help. You want to be kind, supportive, dependable. But somewhere along the way, helping turned into fixing. Caring turned into controlling. And peace got replaced by pressure.

Sometimes, the best way to help is to get out of the way.

Your Problem Isn’t My Problem is your guide to letting go of emotional over-responsibility and learning how to support others without losing yourself. With relatable stories, clear tools, and a refreshingly direct style, this book will help you:

• Set healthy boundaries that protect your energy and relationships.
• Say “no” when you need to say “no.”
• Stop rescuing and start empowering.
• Find peace in relationships, work, and life.

Stop managing everyone else’s life and start fully living your own.

Enjoy these three books in this series:

• Your Problem Isn’t Your Problem. Solve the right problem. Solve the root cause rather than treat symptoms. What if the problem you’re trying to solve isn’t the real problem? Learn to distinguish between symptoms and causes. Challenge assumptions that limit your thinking. Take action that solves the root cause of problems.
• My Problem Isn’t Your Problem. Take responsibility for your problems. Don’t blame, deflect, or expect others to fix your problems. Learn how to replace blame with responsibility, let go of excuses, and take real action at work, at home, and in your relationships. Shift from a victim mindset to one of leadership and agency.
• Your Problem Isn’t My Problem. Set healthy boundaries. Stop rescuing others and allow them to solve their own problems. Understand when to help others and when to step back. Learn about setting boundaries, detaching emotionally from others’ outcomes, and supporting others without enabling bad behavior.